Marriage Communication

Marriage Communication

Comunication in marriage is a hot topic, in fact the term "marriage communication" is one of the most searched for terms on the internet (relative to marriage). With so much interest it is obvious that there is a problem in this area.

Marriage Communication

After thirty three years of success in marriage and a lifetime of Bible study on this and other topics I can offer some help here. I do not pretend to have all the answers but I can shed some light on the issue.

Marriage Communication - The Basics

We talk to people we enjoy talking to, it is that simple. If you have grown apart in your marriage you can expect poor communication. If you do not spend quality time in conversation with your mate you will not get to the real stuff that good marriages are made of . . . Sharing feelings, plans for the future, likes, dislikes and passions, sharing stories of the day and how the kids are doing. Notice that each of these things are the little things that bond a relationship together.

Marriage Communication - Rekindle Your Love

Love, by it nature, is an act of human will. Do not confuse it with lust, lust wants something, but love gives without expecting anything in return. Because love is an act of the will, it is possible to rekindle it, or to put another way, to kick start it. If you are in a relationship that was kindled by lust, and many are, you can turn the corner on love, relationship and marriage communication by practicing the following advise.

Think charitable thoughts about your mate, make this a habit, it won't work if you only do it once.

Think about what you love:

About the way they do something
The way they look that catches your eye, (non sexual)
Something they might have said to you that endears you to them
Something they do well
The way they laugh that makes you happy
The way they cry that makes you sad

This is just a sample list so make a list of your own. Once you begin to think charitable (think loving here) thoughts, start talking to your mate about them. This is a formula for getting on the right track in communicating with your spouse, and to a better marriage.

Marriage Communication - Proverbs 23:7 For as he thinks within himself, so he is . . .